Most relationships have a honeymoon period where the other can do no wrong. But what if you are starting to have some doubts?

If you have been dating someone for a few months you probably have started to see the real person and not just who they want you to see. This may not be "romantic" but it is true.

Sheila an expert on East Indian Dating advises "Most people, whether unintentional or by design, try to only let the person they are newly dating see the best they have to offer. Over time you both find out exactly what kind of person you are dealing with."

Sometimes doubts start to pop up in your head early on. When this happens within the first few months of a new relationship it is hard to know if you are being paranoid or have a good reason to doubt the relationship.

Some good indicators:

• There is an ugly pattern emerging in your new boyfriend or girlfriend. You notice that they tend to get pretty defensive, if not down right nasty, about certain issues or topics. This could be a clear warning sign of what went wrong for them in their last relationship or why they cannot seem to stay in a committed relationship.
  
  
• The voice in your head tells you to walk away. You know the voice, the one that is usually right. You have ignored it in the past and suffered the consequences so now you are wondering if it is better to pay attention to that little voice that tells you everything is not quite what it should be. Listen to the voice.
  
  
• You have done the math. Really this is nothing more than listing "pros" and "cons". The act of writing down what you like about your new girl and what you do not like helps you become clear about your doubts.
  
  
• Happiness Meter. Are you happy? This one should be easy but it usually is not. Being in a state of happiness is often influenced by what we think we "should" feel instead of what we really do feel. Just because your friends all tell you he or she is a "catch" does not mean you have to feel that way.

Ultimately doubt can ruin a relationship whether it is acknowledged or ignored. If you are having doubts it is best to face them head on and try to understand where your doubts are coming from.

Once you have figured out where then it is time to decide if you can talk with your significant other about whatever is causing you doubts. If you can then maybe you can put your mind at ease and move forward in the relationship suggests Ashok, an expert on Indian dating do's and don'ts.

If you cannot, then maybe there is something more serious going on and you will want to step back for awhile and not rush into moving the relationship to the next level.

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