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Break-Up Survival Guide

Losing a loved one is never easy. Even when the loss is your choice, it isn't easy. Whether a person experiences a break up of a relationship, a death of a loved one, or another powerful loss, there are predictable stages one goes through, predictable feelings one feels.

Swiss-born psychiatrist Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross described the five classic stages of the coping with grief and loss. According to Kubler-Ross, a person experiencing loss will go through all of the stages, in any order.

The five stages are:

denial
resentment
bargaining
depression
acceptance

Loss and subsequent grieving is a powerful, transformative time. It is a time to take care of yourself, to let go of the past and to create a future. Unfortunately, many people get stuck in one of the stages of grief, unable to complete their process and move on.

If you are experiencing loss and grief right now, if you have recently ended or are in the process of ending a relationship, I would like to support you in moving through it in an empowering way. I've created the following list of suggestions for you to keep handy to help you cope:

Remember that you...

will feel pain
have survived this type of pain before and will this time as well
will feel lonely
are ok and lovable

Accept that...

the relationship is over
your ex partner has both good and bad qualities; do not idealize or discount him/her

Focus on...

yourself
personal growth
self care

Get complete with...

yourself
your ex

Own...

the magnificence of who you are
your part in the relationship break-up

Give yourself time to...

grieve
be alone
recover

Make sure that you...

get touch, from friends or a body therapist
have someone to come home to sometimes, like a relative or a friend

Reinvent...

your community
yourself
your future
your dreams

If you're experiencing the end of a short-term relationship, consider the following:

Realize that...

the pain you feel is not about your ex partner, but about your past
if you start healing your past, the pain will subside
holding on to anger at an ex partner will keep you attached and in pain

Get complete with...

your ex partner
all of your ex partners
your parents

Give yourself...

room to grieve
room to grow

Build for yourself...

a community
self-esteem
a life that you love

Whether you are ending a long-term or a short-term relationship...

don't look for a new relationship until you are done grieving
trust that when ready you will attract the right partner
welcome the pain as an opportunity to evolve

It's through self-evolution that you will be able to create the relationship of your dreams.

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How To Get Your Ex Back!

Did your loved one leave you and end your relationship suddenly leaving you filled with questions, anxiety and depression? Or did you and your beloved finally split after a lengthy period of constant arguing and unpleasant disagreements?

Whatever the reason for your separation, you do hold the power to SUCCESSFULLY retrieve your long lost love and even have him or her fight for your relationship like you wished he or she would!

Having a broken heart can be a terrible experience. There are many reasons why your ex may have left you and there things you are probably doing that are making the situation worse. You just do not realize these common mistakes because of the emotional state you are in. Regardless of the way you feel right now, this guide will easily help you to understand the makings of a breakup, it will help you to understand why this is happening to you and it will clearly show you what you may be doing wrong. Next, this guide will take you through the easy steps to turn the tables in your favor and have your ex start chasing you and asking for another chance.

The manual is for you if:

You are truly in love with your ex.
You want to see your ex happy.
You want to make your ex happy for the rest of his or her life.
You feel you can never be happy again without this person in your life.
You can see marriage and family with this person, or a re-marriage.
You want to devote every minute of your life to making this person happy.

If you answered yes to all of these attributes, then I would highly suggest ordering this manual now. Do not wait any longer. The longer you wait, the longer it will take for a successful turn around.

This manual will show you:

The steps you MUST take before trying to get him or her back.
The mistakes you most likely have made which pushed your ex away.
The mistakes you are still making which is only making things worse.
What you can do to get his or her attention back.
How to successfully reel him or her back into your life.
How to keep your new relationship with your ex.

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