Break-Up Survival Guide

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	Break-Up Survival Guide by Losing a loved one is never easy. Even when the loss is your choice, it isn't easy. Whether a person experiences a break up of a relationship, a death of a loved one, or another powerful loss, there are predictable stages one goes through, predictable feelings one feels. Swiss-born psychiatrist Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross described the five classic stages of the coping with grief and loss. According to Kubler-Ross, a person experiencing loss will go through all of the stages, in any order. The five stages are: denial resentment bargaining depression acceptance Loss and subsequent grieving is a powerful, transformative time. It is a time to take care of yourself, to let go of the past and to create a future. Unfortunately, many people get stuck in one of the stages of grief, unable to complete their process and move on. If you are experiencing loss and grief right now, if you have recently ended or are in the process of ending a relationship, I would like to support you in moving through it in an empowering way. I've created the following list of suggestions for you to keep handy to help you cope: Remember that you... will feel pain have survived this type of pain before and will this time as well will feel lonely are ok and lovable Accept that... the relationship is over your ex partner has both good and bad qualities; do not idealize or discount him/her Focus on... yourself personal growth self care Get complete with... yourself your ex Own... the magnificence of who you are your part in the relationship break-up Give yourself time to... grieve be alone recover Make sure that you... get touch, from friends or a body therapist have someone to come home to sometimes, like a relative or a friend Reinvent... your community yourself your future your dreams If you're experiencing the end of a short-term relationship, consider the following: Realize that... the pain you feel is not about your ex partner, but about your past if you start healing your past, the pain will subside holding on to anger at an ex partner will keep you attached and in pain Get complete with... your ex partner all of your ex partners your parents Give yourself... room to grieve room to grow Build for yourself... a community self-esteem a life that you love Whether you are ending a long-term or a short-term relationship... don't look for a new relationship until you are done grieving trust that when ready you will attract the right partner welcome the pain as an opportunity to evolve It's through self-evolution that you will be able to create the relationship of your dreams. © Show All Articles By Rinatta Paries Visit the new WhatItTakes.com If you have not visited my website, WhatItTakes.com lately, you are in for a treat. The first phase of the site face- lift is finished, and the site is now very clearly, very logically laid out. Now, you can get to the things you want even faster. Find classes at www.whatittakes.com/classes Find newsletter article archive at www.whatittakes.com/Archive. Find a list of all relationship coaching services at http://www.whatittakes.com/Coaching/coachingservices.html. And more. Visit WhatItTakes.com and enjoy! Back To Article Index
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