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Soul Gazing Will Bring You Closer to Love

by Jaci Rae

What is Soul Gazing and how can it help to rescue your relationship? Is it possible to stay in love with your mate and still get that warm fuzzy feeling? The answer is yes! While many cast envious gazes at "beautiful people" and what is perceived to be success in love and work, nothing is ideal or trouble-free.

If it's worth having, its value is worth the effort and must be worked towards. "Having more money" (it makes it easier to buy things, but doesn't bring love.); Purchasing "a bigger dwelling" (unless you are affluent and can hire a domestic engineer, a bigger dwelling will only keep you from your loved one while you are cleaning.); and thoughts like, "If only I were better looking." (Attractiveness is in the eyes of the beholder. I have noted "less than perfect" people with "eye-catching" mates." It really is how you feel about yourself inside that will reflect outside.) All of these unessential externals are fun, but don't bring contentment or joy in a relationship and none of them will bring you closer to the one you love or gain true love and respect at all.

Numerous wealthy couples that have the world at their beck and call still have horrible marriages and the most hideous divorces. Isn't that a great case in point and lesson to all of us "not so fortunate" people who aren't blessed with their lives and the kind of money they posses; that money doesn't make a relationship happy?

No matter you want in this world, don't you put the effort and time into it to achieve your goal? Why is it then that so many couples throw in the towel without putting any elbow grease into it? Perhaps because many have bought into the Hollywood movie version. But if you want your relationships to work, you must put in the effort and resolve so your relationship can flourish.

The most astounding and happy couples have many things in common. A great sense of humor and hilarity about life not to mention a lot of tough work. These factors are always a common thread for every thriving and joyful relationship I have encountered. What the people in these relationships always say is: 'Work hard; don't lay your head on the pillow angry, and resolve hurtful situations right away.' Fundamentally however, they laugh with each other every day and laugh often.

If you feel like your relationship has lost its spark, there is a technique that can help you get the twinkle back in your love life. What is it? I call it Soul Gazing and it's an uncomplicated method of gazing into your partner's eyes. 15 minutes is the time you are shooting for, but to start out, I suggest 2-3 minutes.

No talking is involved and you must look into each other eyes without turning away. Soul Gazing has strengthened couples who were very happy in their relationship and has helped save ones that were about to collapse.

If you want the love you deserve the last piece of advice I can give is to really understand that Love is a gift and it's not a right. It's is a decision, not a feeling. If you make the choice to make your relationship work it will stand the test of time and you can have the enduring and deep love you deserve.



©2006 Jaci Rae

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Jaci Rae's grit and determination brought her from a poor childhood to a successful singer and performer who tours around the world. She is the recipient of the "Female Vocalist of the Year" award at the Golden Music Awards in Nashville, TN as well as a Barnes and Noble and Amazon #1 Best seller of Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time (Simon and Schuster).

Jaci spends her spare time working on her music, writing and hanging out with family and friends. She is also on the dating team of Savvymiss.com and is a relationship advisor for loveisgreat.com. For more information, go to http://www.winningromance.com

About.com Dating Guide has just put Jaci's book, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time in the top six of all time dating / relationship books.

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