*A Woman's Conversation About a Haircut:*

Oh! That's so cute!

Do you think so? I wasn't sure when she was gave me the mirror. I mean, you don't think it's too fluffy looking?

Oh goodness no! No, it's perfect. I'd love to get my hair cut like that, but I think my face is too wide. I'm pretty much stuck with this stuff I think.

Are you serious? I think your face is adorable. And you could easily get one of those layer cuts that would look so cute I think. I was actually going to do that except that I was afraid it would accent my long neck.

Oh, that's funny! I would love to have your neck! Anything to take attention away from this two-by-four I have for a shoulder line.

Are you kidding? I know girls that would love to have your shoulders. Everything drapes so well on you. I mean, look at my arms. See how short they are? If I had your shoulders I could get clothes to fit me so much easier.

*A Man's Conversation About a Haircut:*

Haircut?

Yep.

I guess that is why the book Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus. It is clear that certain topics have a different importance level to some people.

But, that's what makes the world go around. The fact that folks are interested in subjects that don't interest you is a point you should tolerate. After all it is highly likely you are interested in topics and ideas that don't interest them.

So how do you handle that situation? Well, first of all ask yourself why you are inclined to push your own agenda. Is it necessary you embark on any conversation on subjects and ideas that interest you? The point here is that socially it is often a good strategy to show genuine interest in the ideas and topics of the person with whom you are speaking.

If that person should stray into your territory then you will have a wonderful and meaningful conversation for each of you. If they don't stray that far then you will have a person who thinks you are great because your listening has made him/her feel important. That is always a good step.

Never forget that it takes the vulture and the robin to make life interesting and beautiful. So too with people. It takes all kinds and learning to accept the fact that people are all on different levels of knowledge, interest and paths is a big step in furthering your social skills. It helps in the workplace, socially and at home.

The benefits of being tolerant can be many. First, it removes from you much pressure. You are removed from the need to justify your existence. As you learn to listen your social acceptability grows. As you show genuine interest in others and the things that concern them you become important to them. Does that sound like a good plan for you to follow? It really all boils down to understanding that people come in ...

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