When you are faced with problems in your relationship, it would be easy to walk away and let it fail, while it is harder to stay and work it through. When you are faced with these issues, to keep it in perspective, think of the way you felt when you first met and the reason you fell in love. Remember the good and the bad times you shared, and what makes it worth it.

You know that it takes two to tango, and this applies to your relationship as well. An effort from only one party is not going to prove to be successful.

Many relationships fail for a number of reasons here are a few of the common ones:

• High expectations generally happen when entering a relationship viewing everything through rose-colored glasses/spectacles. When these expectations are not met disappointment and frustration soon follow.
  
  
• Financial issues are not taboo between couples. A household budget should be discussed early so you know what is expected of you. It is important to speak up about money issues when they first arise, and not scream about it when you both are angry.
  
  
• Manage your stress. Recognize what stresses you both out and do whatever you can to not fall prey. Too much stress can hamper one's ability to think and respond properly.
  
  
• Compromise and do things as a couple. Go to a football match with him and take her shopping, or go on holiday together. Don't be afraid to speak up and tell your significant other what you want and need. No offence to you guys, but you don't take hints well, so learn to LISTEN, not just hear! Part of listening also involves not get defensive when she speaks to you, be genuine, compassionate, understanding and sincere.
  
  
• Spice up your relationship and go out and have a night on the town together. Bring home flowers and chocolates for no particular reason. Apologize if you have done something to upset her, and surprise her with something that she's been wanting but do it for "no reason whatsoever" not because it's her birthday or Valentine's day.

Both of you have to be willing to make this relationship work. Don't scream, argue and curse, rather sit down, call a meeting and be reasonable and logical about it. Try not to get too emotional, speak calmly when you say what you have to say.

There are an abundance of tips that can save your relationship, but like with all advice, it may not work in all situations. An understanding of your partner and what your relationship requires can provide you with what you need.

©2009 Michael Webb

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