Your Online Personal Ad
- Write For Success!
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Where are all the good men/women? You go to parties, sign up for various activities and ask friends and family if they know anyone they can introduce you to. Yet, your dating life has been more than a little disappointing. What is a guy/girl supposed to do to find quality people?
Begin by continuing to do what you have been doing. These are all good ways to meet people. However, you may need to expand your search to the world of online dating. This would allow you to expand your search and come into contact with interested and available singles you would never meet in the existing circles in which you now move.
Perhaps you are thinking, "I have already tried this with little or mixed success." Maybe this too has become a source of disappointment and frustration and even despair. If so, you could be going about it the wrong way, or be in need of some information to put you on a track to better success. The first important step is writing your personal ad and choosing a good site to place it on.
The following are tips to help you write for success.
Be Yourself
The goal of your ad is to attract the kind of person who would be compatible with you. You are looking for someone who shares your goals, values, sense of humor, lifestyle and perhaps religion or other specific criteria. If you put in information that is not true to who you are, you could send potentially good dates on to the next ad. You may also attract the kind of person you are not interested in.
Be Sincere
Nothing is more attractive than sincerity. Think about it. Isn"t this a turn-on for you? If you are funny, be funny. If you are serious, be that. Use honesty in describing your traits and desires in a potential mate. If there is something that is a must-have for you in any future relationship, highlight it. Remember that when and if you move to the next step, the other person will experience you as you really are, regardless of what the picture you drew for them in your ad looked like.
Write Like You Talk
This goes right along with being you. Don"t make your ad seem too contrived or rehearsed. You will loose that feeling of sincerity. Write a few drafts and just let the thoughts flow. Then go back and edit it. Make sure you spell check and check again. There is no bigger turn-off than someone who appears to have poor grammar or spelling.
Be Specific, But Leave Out Hang-Ups and Other Negatives
This is a first step. You want to put your true best forward. The picture you paint should be upbeat and positive. Everyone has a past. It"s not wise too tell too much too soon. If you feel something is important, than put it in. A good example is "single mom", "divorced father of two", etc. Leave out the part about looking for someone to help me heal from a painful divorce.
Do not mention past relationships except to inform that you had one.
Highlight Your Uniqueness
There are things about us all that make us uniquely who we are. Let your ad portray this. If you have a special talent, interesting career or pastime, let people know about it. If it"s important to you, it tells others much. If someone out there shares it, they will be drawn to what you have written.
Find a unique way to highlight yourself. If you look like someone well known, put that in. Just remember, if you look like Woody Allen, don"t portray yourself as a Robert Redford type.
Avoid classic turn-offs
If you place a heavy emphasis on finding someone who is "beautiful" or "wealthy", you will turn off many people- often the very people who hope to attract. No one wants to be wanted for his or her looks or bank account. It also says something about you. How about superficial?
Use a Picture
This is very important. Ads that don"t have one get far fewer responses. Many singles are having a professional picture made of them. You want to look like your BEST self. A professional can usually do a much better job at a very reasonable cost if you shop around a bit.
Post Your Ad On The Right Site
There are so many choices out there. Look for one that has a large membership of people who appear to be compatible with you. Make sure they have an enforced safety and privacy policy. There are specialty sites for people who seek a partner with a very particular passion or lifestyle. These include but are not limited to: animal lovers, vegetarians, advanced degreed professionals, and sites for people seeking those of the same faith.
If your requirements include someone within a close geographical distance, look for the sites that offer you a good selection.
Once you have given it careful thought and a little research and energy, write and post your ad for success.
Remember, we attract what we are, not what we want.
is a psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), and People magazines. She has been featured on ABC news, Discovery Health, AOL news, MSN, and Match. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in "The Business And Practice Of Coaching," ( Norton,September 2005); and is the author of the forward for," Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time" (Simon and Schuster, November 2005). From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.
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Are YOU Being Scammed Right Now?
Can you really trust the person you are dating online?
Are YOU Being Deceived By The Person YOU Think YOU Are Dating Online?
Are YOU One of the THOUSANDS of PEOPLE who are being deceived and are losing tens of thousands of dollars right now?
If you think this could be a joke, or it couldn't happen to you, then think again!!
About 150 people, who thought they were in love, just like you, reportedly lost a total of over $1,000,000.00 ( yes, that's one million dollars) in just about three months to scammers !!!
And in that same group, about 1,800 other people refused to make any disclosures as to their financial losses, for various reasons .What was clear was the fact that millions of dollars are being lost per month to these scams.
If you are dating online or involved in any relationship online, especially with a person with links to Nigeria, the West African Coast or you know someone who is, then you need to read this urgently now !!!
If the person you are dating or chatting with is claiming to be a US citizen, but is now working abroad, especially in Nigeria, then you must read this too.
Who knows whose life you may be saving next?
Just because people do not tell you about it does not mean it is not happening.
The scams are happening to people regardless of age, sex, educational level, status in life, background, marital status, or even race.
Single ladies and men, elderly women and men, all types of professionals, and many other people have lost money,
and their hearts too.
It took them months to recover from the effects on them.
And their families never knew until it hit them.
In some cases, the men or ladies had gone on to intimate their families that they were bringing a fiancé or fiancée home.
Only for them to discover at the last minute that there was no lover, leaving many families disappointed.
And to many people, they had to suffer the pains and the shame too.
The embarrassments, the guilt feelings, the suicide battles, the empty, lonely feelings and all that.
Not a few felt like ending their lives as a result of what happened to them.
Losing a lover in real life is bad enough.
But getting to discover that you were being deceived all the time, and seeing that there was no real person makes it much worse.
It takes a lot of effort by many to get over such an event.
If it were the problem of just a few people, it could be waved away as being just a small problem.
But in just a matter of 5 months in 2005 alone, thousands of people in the USA have owned up to being scammed.
And from firsthand experience gathered right at the places where the scams happen, lots of people are still being scammed.
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By getting the details in this guide, you never know whose life, money and emotions you could be saving.
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Remember, the key to stopping the scams is not in the FBI or the police or any other agency.
They are doing all they can, but it is not stopping the scams from proliferating all over the place.
Remember -- The key to stopping the scams is by educating yourself!
