So here's the question!
Who are you looking for?
by
18-60's Dating
We are of course talking about your profile, as it is what will make or break online dating for you. This week in particular we are talking about the "Looking For" section of your profile. We were approving new members one day when Gary said "They are describing anybody". We looked through a lot of your profiles and he was right.
Take a look at a few of those paragraphs from actual profiles:
Here are a few of our male members no names just actual examples.
1) Looking For
"just some one who is like me"
Say no more, how many replies do you all suppose this member is getting? Gary said "Imagine the conversation in their house"
2) Looking for
"Well, I am just hoping to meet a really nice, decent lady!"
Now would that be a skinny girl? Or do you prefer heavier girls? Is that with or without a wart on the end of her nose? do you mind if she has a pipe or chews chewing tobacco?
3) Looking for
"I want someone I can trust. Someone who is not gonna leave
me. I have been hurt to many times and I don't want to be
hurt again. They have to be willing to get in the floor and
wrestled with me also. "
"My advice would be get a dog they will do all the above with and for you."
Ok we are being silly and extreme here, but do you see what we are saying? When a man or woman reads a profile first they read about you, they may think "yeah he/she sounds nice". Then what do they do? They wonder what kind of man or woman YOU want to meet. So they read your "Looking for" section. In order for them to pluck up the courage to write, they have to feel that they are what you are looking for. THEY CAN NOT reach that conclusion on no information.
The way we see it is this. Online dating has many many advantages than over bar dating or blind dating. Firstly if it all goes pear shaped there is no suffering bad dates, you simply type "Im sorry I don't think it will work". Unlike real life dating you are not embarrased if rejected, you can not be hassled you just hit "block" if you get an idiot annoying you, you are safe and secure. The male has no bravado because he's behind a keyboard, and the girls don't get to make a fool of the guy with her girlfriends. (we're both as guilty of that as the other)
Online dating is more like shopping for a partner, you really do get to try before you buy. Let's take that idea and look at it. However we must remember you may be shopping for a new partner, but that partner is also shopping for you therefore both of you have to sell too.
To find your partner you need to sell yourself, not hard promotional sell, truthful selling. You are the product, marketing yourself you have to give the shopper accurate goods descriptions.
Question, if you went food shopping, and saw a can on the shelf with a label that said "This is nice, its tasty, it's fresh and it's good for you." Would you buy it? Of course not not enough info, what's inside that tin may well be the best food in the world, but you walk on by because you didn't have enough info. Get it?
Look at any of those profile examples above, maybe those three guys have missed the girl of their dreams for not labeling their can properly.
Dating profiles should be accurate, honest and filled with detail. Don't be ashamed to say who you are looking for. We are not stupid we all know "Ideal" is very hard to find, but you know what, type ideal anyway, what if you get close to your ideal? Also if someone reading your profile is nothing like what you write, great, you've both saved time and move a little closer to the one you do seek.
So describe your ideal man or woman in that box on your profile.
I know you think we are nagging, nooo, we are trying to help, we don't have to sit here writing these articles we just really want you to find someone new.
We are not happy to let you sit here getting no results, so edit your profile regularly, get a membership if you haven't already got one and get serious. The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary.
Good Luck in your search.
Article courtesy of 18-60's Dating
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