Summer is over. The clouds and all the miserable weather that accompanies them are settling themselves over the UK for another long stay. We've had our relaxing holidays and exciting excursions for the year. Now, all that remains is a lingering tan, a small pool of sand in the washing basket and a few fond memories.

But for those fortunate enough to have had a holiday romance this year, does this have to be the end? We all know what happens in Grease, High School Musical and countless other fictional accounts of exotic encounters. But in reality, can these kinds of attachments last or were they just prompted by the heat of the moment? Here are a few points to consider if you've recently been involved in one of these rendezvous:

Consider things logically...

Now you're out of that dizzying cloud of humidity, take a few steps backwards and coolly consider the situation. Think about what you're attracted to - is it purely physical or do you feel a much deeper connection with them already? Weigh up the kind of person they are from their sense of humour, their friends and your conversations. Compare them to exes and your wealth of romantic experiences and try to work out if you could be compatible. If a little red flag is coming up when you scrutinise their personality, it may be best not to pursue the relationship.

Don't let distance deter you...

If you've weighed the pros and cons and distance comes up as the only major deterrent, do not fear! There are definitely ways around this. The recent craze for dating sites has meant that thousands more couples are taking the plunge and committing to long-distance attachments. If the distance is completely impractical and involves several planes then yes, that could be a problem. But within the UK, trains, coaches and even planes can be cheap if you book in advance. Also, the brilliance of Skype means you can talk via web cam endlessly, and it's absolutely free. If you care enough about each other, distance needn't be a problem.

Get to know each other...

If after all of this consideration you're still not sure about the whole thing, then the answer is simple: you need to get to know each other a little better before making a serious decision. Whether this is through a few dates or all 500 of your free calls and texts, it will undoubtedly help clear up or confirm any doubts.

Make room for them...

As holiday romances are very much things of the moment, it can be easy to go back home and carry on as normal. For example, if you're in London dating, the busy metropolis and the demands of other responsibilities can all too easily swallow up your time. If you do decide to give your relationship a go, make sure you don't neglect it in this way. Try to fit your new flame around your other commitments - introduce them to friends and try your best to fit them in to your circle.

Holiday romances don't have to be just that. They could be the beginning of a life-changing experience with someone special. It's up to you to decide!

©2010 Steve Davis

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