I'm sure you've seen it a million times: the most beautiful woman you've seen in years on the arm of the ugliest/nerdiest/oldest man you've ever seen.

I'm sure your first thought was, "Wow, that guy must be filthy freakin' rich!" Well, maybe. Maybe not.

Either way, that's probably not the whole story.

Men and women become sexually aroused for different reasons. Men are visual, and women are multisensory.

While men can get turned on by even a hint of naked flesh, women incorporate all their senses and feelings into arousal.

So even if the man isn't the most visually appealing, he could be brilliant with a wicked sense of humor and smells nice and tastes like chocolate mousse, and, yes, maybe he pays for dinner.

One thing you can guarantee, he has admitted to goals outside getting that woman into bed.

Women look at the whole package, or at least aspects of the package you don't.

When men see a beautiful woman, they are physically capable of having sex with her in a matter of seconds, and probably able to finish not long after that. (This is part of the reason Playboy has remained one of the most successful publications in American history, and why Playgirl tanked when gay men got their own porn.)

Women, however, need to have other senses satisfied. A good conversation is as erotic to a woman as her low-cut blouse is to you.

This brings us to the next point: to a woman, sex and emotion are not mutually exclusive.

A woman has to feel an emotional connection to her partner in order to enjoy the sex.

This does not mean that a woman cannot have casual sex.

It simply means that there must be an understanding of mutual respect between partners for a woman to be satisfied.

All that requires is for the man to be aware of the fact that there is a living, breathing, responsive human under him.

Stated as such, that may be obvious, but it is quite overlooked.

While you're thinking, "Don't cum, don't cum, don't cum," she is feeling every moment of the process and evaluating it.

If you're ignoring her while you're inside her, she can sense it, and may see it as a form of rejection.

This will not make her want to have sex with you again.

So there you go, if the ugly/nerdy/old guy can get a supermodel (and make her cum), then by all means you should be able to get the cute girl two cubes down from you.

Just appeal to all her senses. And throw on some Barry White. That never hurt anyone.

©2009 Michael Webb

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