I talked to hundreds of women about this and they all agreed that the very best gift a guy could give them is to become their friend. You would be surprised that so many women are dying for a man to be their friend. Friendship, in many ways, is even more special than romance or sex and a relationship that develops from friendship is extremely enduring and satisfying.

The sad part is that so many men today are so eager to seduce a woman that they forget all about being her friend. Most of the time they don't even like her. A man that allows himself to become close to a woman and become her friend can only make the vibes between them more exciting and intimate.

The most successful pickup artists are men who truly enjoy the company of women. A woman is a lot freer with a man who opens up to her, lets her know how terrific she is, and allows friendship to develop between them. Love is a little more than sex plus friendship. But for love to appear, friendship has to be there first. I missed out on one of the sexiest and nicest girls in the world because I didn't know the value of friendship.

I first met Bonnie in my second year in college. She sat next to me in Psychology class. She was breathtaking in her beauty. She had long black hair and a shape that wouldn't quit. We were picked to write a project together. We became very close friends because we had to study together. I remember many times sitting next to Bonnie that I became misty eyed because she was so pretty and smelled so good. I thought to myself, 'Why couldn't she be more than just a friend? Many of my buddies saw us studying together and told me that they would like to have a friend like her. Bonnie and I became a twosome around college. I figured she regarded me just like a brother and would never consider me more than a friend.

Bonnie and I went our separate ways and I ran into her about ten years later. I saw her at a shopping mall one evening. I was married at the time, about to get divorced, and Bonnie was as beautiful as ever. She was married to a doctor. She shocked me by what she told me. She admitted to me that I was the best friend she ever had in college and that because I was so close to her that she fell in love with me. She never told me that because she figured that I wasn't interested. I couldn't believe it. Here I thought she considered me just a friend, but because I became her friend she fell in love with me. I missed out because I didn't know how high women value friendship from men.

I no longer make that mistake. Because I become friends with nearly all women I have dated, I have had dozens of women fall in love with me. Do not throw away this chance. The next woman you meet, become her friend and you won't be sorry.

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