When tackling the problem of premature ejaculation, it's easy for a guy to only think about sex from a male point of view-because, after all, coming too soon is a male problem. But this is a mistake. When you think about it, there are certain key similarities (and differences) between the sexes that, when understood, can help you extend your sexual performance.

Both sexes have that feeling that sexual stimulation and sensation are building in their 'private regions'. They both get that sudden feeling about five seconds before they come when they know it's going to happen. Those a few of the similarities. But there's also a key difference between the male and female orgasms which is worth taking note of. It concerns breathing or not breathing during the minute or so before the orgasm could technically take place. If a woman unconsciously holds her breath for the minute or so before she could potentially come, it will tend to delay her orgasm-in other words, make it harder for her to come. However, if a man holds his breath for the minute or so before he could come, it will tend to make him come faster. God knows why this is the case, but it is. So when you are having sex and want to delay when you come, you should always focus on doing the following:

• Breathe slowly and in a regular fashion. Don't take random breaths only when you need them.


• Breathe deeply, focussing on your lower chest and belly. Expanding your belly as you breathe helps you take in more air, which relaxes you and keeps you calm.


• NEVER hold your breathe. Just don't do it. It tenses you up and puts you on edge, making you much more likely to come too soon.

By breathing deeply and regularly in the way described above, you'll be able to reduce anxiety and increase your ability to always be totally aware of the sensations you're feeling in and around your penis. The natural result? A longer, more pleasurable sexual experience for you and your partner.

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