You're a successful person, you have a good job, own a nice car, and make a good salary. So why is it that you are still single?

One reason is that you are probably too shy to take a risk and flirt with the locals. The chances that a woman approaches you and says, "Excuse me, I find you cute. Would you like to go out for coffee with me?" are very slim. Therefore, it is up to you to initiate some kind of contact. You have to be proactive, don't expect things to come to you in life, you have to go out and get what you want. How do you do it?

The first step, is to find out if she is interested in you. This is done by flirting. If she joins the game and flirts back with you, then you know that she is interested. All that is left for you to do is to approach her, and be charming to captivate her, and close the deal by getting her number.

how you should flirt

Before you start flirting, it is important that you understand the essence of flirting. Flirting is all about interest, and a man should never flirt with a woman that he doesn't want to know a little bit better. A man who flirts with a woman whom he is not interested in, will only be wasting his time, because women have great instincts and can easily detect someone who is not sincere. Successful flirting only works when there is a mutual attraction.

Flirting involves being confident, playful, fun, and mysterious. Flirting involves using your whole body. Talking the talk, without walking the walk, is ineffective. Don't believe me? Try telling a woman she is beautiful and then look away, and see if she believes you. You have to use all the tools (eye contact, smiling, paying attention, playing, touching, etc..) and combine them together to show that you are really interested in her.

Unsuccessful flirting is often the result of being too sexual, too eager to flirt with anyone, too self-absorbed. Make sure that you know how to have a little fun, the next time you meet someone by following these steps:

1. Take a chance: Flirting by its very nature is being active. Nothing will happen if you sit back and wait for someone to flirt with you. Take a chance. Who doesn't like a little flirting?

2. Lock Eyes: Don't stare or gawk for too long, but connect with your eyes and you have a better chance of meeting her. Looking at someone in the eyes is very compelling - it makes a person feel like they've got your undivided attention. Don't look like your trying to remember, if you fed your dog.

3. Be interested: Paying genuine attention is a great place to start. There are few things sexier than someone who's totally into you.

4. Flattery: A honest appraisal of what you really feel about this person is a big turn-on, but false praise is a total turn-off.

5. Play: Good flirting is fun, so do not be afraid to tease and giggle.

6. Touch: Brush arms, bump knees, and tweak noses.

7. Smile, don't smirk: Smile openly and sincerely - it's irresistible.

8. Don't think you can't do it: Anyone can flirt, even if only for a little while. Practice makes perfect, and remember, you don't have to be smooth, only sincere.

9. Enjoy yourself: Flirting is having fun, and when you're having fun, it'll be easy to convince her to play. Remember, flirting should be enjoyable, and not be difficult, as if you are defusing a bomb.

Top Flirting Mistakes

A lot of people think that flirting is a waste of time. That's because they go about it the wrong way. When you flirt, make sure to keep these rules in mind:

1. Don't play the little boy routine (helpless and innocent), it can get annoying pretty fast.
2. Don't be slick.
3. Don't be negative.
4. Don't play stupid.
5. Don't act silly (straws up your nose).
6. Don't whine.

The next time you're at a friend's gathering, or even the pub next to your work, don't be afraid to flirt with the sexy woman who caught your eye. Whatever you do, don't sit in your little corner. You never get anything if you don't try. Remember, if you want to meet someone, it all starts with flirting.

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