Contact Etiquette
When You Meet Someone You Want to See or Talk to Again
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Have you ever met someone and wanted to see him again?
Or talk to her again? When you first meet someone and
are interested in connecting with her again, how and
where do you try to contact her? How and where would
you like him to contact you?
Contact information etiquette is essential if you date
once in a while or are actively dating to find your
ideal mate.
Consider these things:
- Do you want someone you just met to have your home
phone number? Office phone number? Cell phone number?
- Do you have an alternate voice mail number you give
out to men or women you meet and start dating?
- Is it okay with you to receive calls at all hours of
the day and night?
- Is it okay with you to receive e-mails at your place
of business?
- Do you have an alternate mailbox or e-mail address
for personal/social contacts?
- Do you have any concerns inviting someone you just
met into your home? Home neighborhood? Office? Office
neighborhood?
- Are you welcoming of someone you just met or are
getting to know dropping in on you at home? In the
office? Calling you anytime the mood strikes?
Think about these things carefully. Talk to your
friends and family members about the whole area of
contact information etiquette. Are there any behaviors
that you want to add to my list for yourself?
Decide what is comfortable or preferable for you. Set
the boundaries that match for you and honor your
beliefs and values. Don't worry about how the other
person is going to view this. You are the important
person in your picture. There are no right or wrong
choices. There are just your choices that affirm and
honor you!
I am going to offer one word of caution. When setting
up the first 5 to 8 meetings, make every conceivable
effort to avoid inviting strangers into your home, home
neighborhood and into your office. And yes, men and
women you meet and start dating are strangers! Please
be clear about this. It doesn't matter who you think
they are or who you want them to be. Until you have
personal experience with people over time, they are
strangers.
Invite them for coffee or lunch or a stroll through an
art gallery or museum. Meet them in the coffee house,
restaurant or art gallery. Invite a friend to join you
and this "new" special person. Park your car down the
street, not in the restaurant parking lot. Say goodbye
in front of the art gallery. This used to be good
advice for women. Today, it is just plain good advice!
Be savvy and be safe. Help people understand what you
expect and how to treat you. Take a deep breath,
connect to what you know and go for it!
Only you can make it happen!
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Your Looks could really mean Less
to a Fine Female if You know this.
If there's one thing that is certain in the dating world it is that being a challenge, staying strong in the presence of women, and acting like James Bond are all sure-fire ways to get in a woman's pants. And you want to know why? Because all of these things make a guy look like an in-charge, tough, mysterious man who knows how to please a woman. Unless the guy is ugly of course, then he just comes off looking like an ugly asshole. Because the truth is that most dating guides are written for average to good-looking people who just haven't quite figured out, well, anything in terms of how to act around a woman.
That's why an ugly dude could go through hundreds of dating books and ebooks and still not come away with a female. He's reading material that's obviously written for another group of guys. Thankfully, Matthew Doeing took this into account and decided to lend a helping hand to non-attractive men everywhere when he wrote The Ugly Man's Guide to Getting Laid. Finally, something written for those who can't use their baby blues to seduce a hottie.
So since ugly guys can't use their looks to lure a girl in, or even get her to glance in their direction, what are they to do about the approach? Doeing explains that the approach is all determined by the vibe one is getting from a certain girl's eye contact. And what he proposes is to actually look at a girl until she catches you looking at her. Look, not stare. Based on what actions she takes, you'll now know if she has an interest in you or thinks you're totally unattractive without ever speaking a word to her.
So what happens if you do gauge interest from your eye contact games with her? Doeing says that there is an easy and natural way to approach the woman of interest without looking like a bumbling fool. Simply start the conversation with the obvious such as the band that is playing great in the bar, the magazine that she is browsing through at the store, and so forth.
Another thing that I really like about Doeing's ebook is that he provides a good example of the personality that will keep an already interested woman around in his "how to be possitively addicting" chapter. Earlier in the ebook he covers the black hole that an ugly guy who wallows in self-pity can slide into and this chapter is the antidote to that section. He gives ways to be possitvely addicting such as the positive effect that even forced feelings can have on a hopeful player and he gives some great examples of guys who weren't exactly the hottest guys but still were able to be surrounded by the opposite sex.
Some people might get the wrong impression about Matthew's ebook though simply from the suggestion that the title might give. At first glance, this ebook seems like a guide to help self-loathers get into a woman's pants. However, this couldn't be farther from the truth as Doeing seems genuinely concerned not only with helping ugly guys date women, but also to be better human beings.
In my opinion, this is a rare combination in a market full of dating guides which normally cater to guys who are simply looking for the fastest way possible to get a girl in bed. As hokey as it sounds, Ugly Man's Guide to Getting Laid will not only help you land more women, but also land a better overall life for yourself.
