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How To Get A Woman To 'Shower' You With Attention

by DatingInsiderBook.com

The other day, we told you:

"If you'd like a woman to shower you with attention, you must always be needed and wanted... Simply do (THIS???) and the seduction can last forever." 99.9% of men shoot themselves in the foot because they don't stick to this simple key element! How many times have you failed with women because of (THIS???)
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So, what is THIS??? ... How does a guy get a woman to 'shower' him with attention?

It's called DETACHMENT.


HERE'S HOW IT WORKS:

Once you've made a good impression on a woman -- for example you've said 'hi' to her, she's said 'hi' back, and you've had a chance to flirt and establish a slight level of attraction -- you increase the heat by suddenly backing off. As explained in our book, your goal is to leave her 'wanting more'.

Women do this all the time to men. This is almost a tradition, and so it can really infect a woman with attraction when a guy does it. Because it's the last thing that she expects.


FACT: Men are generally the aggressors. Men pursue women.

FACT: Most often a woman wants a man that she pursues.

CONCLUSION: Do not chase women. You want women to chase you. And you do this by combining flirtatious behavior with 'detachment'.


USING THIS STRATEGY IN REAL LIFE...

To 'detach' from a woman, you first need to ignite a spark of attraction with flirtatious behavior ... Smiles, seductive language, exciting movements (* read the complete guide to flirting in The 'Science' of Picking Up Women).

After you've set the stage with flirtatious behavior, it's time to 'detach' and back off... Suddenly, the woman is left wondering why you backed off. She is left thinking about you.

Your goal is to leave her to think about you for a few days... the next time you see her, once again be warm and flirtatious.

Then start the cycle of detachment all over again.


WARNING: There is a danger of being labeled an 'office tease' if you don't step up the heat in future encounters that you use flirtatious behavior. So step up the heat, use detachment to leave her thinking about you more and more, and when the time is right, when you feel that she is literally hoping more than anything to be with you...


ASK YOURSELF: Do you want this woman to become 'obsessed' with you? You have set the stage for serious 'obsession', and as you are about to find out with this woman, sex with an obsessed woman is one of the seven wonders of the world.

Read that again. Sex with an obsessed woman is one of the seven wonders of the world.

Sure, she might think that you're a jerk... that you're a 'player'... that you'll probably 'play' her... BUT SHE WILL STILL WANT YOU. She'll start showing up where she knows she'll find you... at your work, at school, at the nightclub. She'll start talking to all of her friends about you. She'll start calling you day and night.

She might start annoying you. But, those are the drawbacks you'll have to live with when you have used detachment on a woman so many times that she's willing to put out sex where ever and when ever you want it.



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Attraction Formula

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Attraction Formula was written by an "underground" but extremely experienced New York player named Paul Janka. His recent appearance on Dr. Phil has a lot of guys curious about his no-frills approach to meeting women.

He's had sex with (at the time of this writing) about 146 women, so he certainly has the credentials to provide some excellent insights into the finer points of advanced game.

The interesting thing about this book is that there is very little focus on "inner game." Janka's writing is zero-fluff and gets right into tactics and getting the job done.

The book is split up into six sections:

I. PREPARATION: Philosophy and Mindset
II. ENGAGEMENT: Bringing Her into Your Reality
III. MIDGAME: Moving Beyond the Digits
IV. SEXUAL LOGISTICS: Making It Happen
V. RELATIONSHIPS: The Final Frontier
VI. LUXURY PROBLEMS: Consequences of the Player Lifestyle

Preparation

Despite the strong focus on advanced game, Janka does cover the foundations of solid beginner game and how to overcome approach anxiety. His talks about how to conquer fear and how to get into the zone (he calls this "mojo").

In addition he talks about where and when to meet women for an effective interaction. What's interesting is that Janka does not go to bars or clubs at night or on the weekend. As a result, much of the material here is on street or "day game."

Engagement

The second section of the book is where Janka's extensive experience becomes apparent. Since he's lived in New York City for several years, he has approached thousands of women. He discusses overcoming objections and how to get phone numbers quickly. His game here is very tight and goal oriented. He doesn't spend a lot of time chatting with women for long periods of time. In fact, he discourages it.

Midgame

Here Janka talks about what to do after you get the phone number. How do you transition from meeting her on the street to having her naked and screaming your name at the end of the night? He also reveals more about his infamous spreadsheet that contains details of all the women that he's been with. He then dives into dates and where to go and what to say during the date. I think he could have expanded this section more, but there are still quite a few gems here to make it a worthwhile read for any serious player.

Sexual Logistics

This is where things get hot and heavy. Janka discusses issues of respect, getting her turned on, and transitioning to sex. His style is fast paced and may be a little too advanced for beginners. He's even said that he doesn't take women on dates anymore. He simply meets them on the street and later invites them back to his apartment. In this part of the book, he also gives out several good tips on how to setup your apartment for sex.

Relationships

Even a seasoned player like Janka occasionally has relationships. He talks about how to make the decision to enter a relationship and how to effectively prevent a relationship from developing, should that be your decision. Topics of note here are how to manage multiple girls and how to manage their expectations.

Luxury Problems

One of the funnier bits I've seen in a long time. For instance, he brings up the interesting challenge of trying to schedule dates with girls based on their menstrual cycles. Dry cleaning bills and soiled linens are also rants that had me falling off my chair.

Janka concludes his hard-hitting guide with several case studies from his personal life. While the book is certainly not for the faint of heart, his advice is solid and is a worth reading several times over. I would strongly recommend it for anyone looking for a book on advanced game.

Click here to learn more about Attraction Formula.




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