Dating Online? Watch that Ad!

New to Online Dating? Trying to find the man or woman of your dreams through the Virtual World? You need to have a Good Personal Ad or Dating Profile.

Some people don't believe me when I tell them that most problems with not enough Responses to your Ad can be fixed just by writing a better Ad. And then I often take them, real-time, to an Online Dating Site. I randomly start reading out profiles, and they cannot believe that so many people write such terrible ads! Maybe it is this overvalued notion of spontaneity, of writing whatever comes to your mind, letting it flow, being you (as if I was Jack yesterday)- which leads you to write gibberish in your ads. Say goodbye to any success in Online Dating with that. Think what would happen if NASA Engineers became spontaneous.

So stop your Dating shuttle from crashing and read these examples of common Mistakes in Dating Profiles. Have a laugh, but be careful, your own profile may have bugs too! (All examples are real)

.."I am a funny, witty person...."

Funny and witty people never write that directly. Instead of saying this, add a touch of humor to your profile.

.."I was just bored, so wrote my profile here..."

A negative attitude. Instead, say, "I am new to this..."

..."I am an Honest, Spontaneous, Creative, Intelligent (..other personal adjectives) ...person."

Very few people think they are not, so this is very subjective (same as the fact that 80% people believe that they have an IQ above average!). Even if true, it is redundant information at best. Avoid using personal adjectives in your Ad or Profile. Define yourself concretely-better to say I am a Guitar player in a Band or I write Novels or I am a practising Doctor than I am Creative or Intelligent.

..."I want a guy who can make me laugh..."

Comes across as negative-you sound slightly depressed if you need someone just to make you laugh. There's plenty of stuff on the TV to make you laugh, and you are not looking for a joker, you are looking for a boyfriend, a mate...remember?

..."I like dark haired men, but if you are blond and good-looking, write me anyway, maybe you can change my  mind...."

Turn-off to blond men. Make up your mind, if you are looking for only dark haired men, just say that. Don't play both sides of the coin, generally backfires. Better not to say anything if you are not sure.

..."I like taking walks by the ocean, or watching TV, or going camping with my friends..."

Unimportant details. Most people like these things, and these are hardly important details in finding a partner (it is unlikely you won't like going out with someone just because they don't like walking the beach or watching TV with you) . Your hobbies is where you put these things, and more specifically-e.g. Camping, or Watching Basketball.

..."I am sexy, flirtatious,... I like kisses on my back, full body massages from my boyfriend/girlfriend..."

Generally speaking, keep the sexual innuendos out. You will have plenty of time to exchange many raunchy emails if you are addicted to writing sexual stuff... but in the first impression, keep it out. Think about it this way-would you say this to a guy or a girl in a bar who you meet for the first time? If not, then don't say it in your Ad either.

..."I am looking for a REAL man/woman, with all the letters of REAL..." Everyone is real. Basically, don't worry, sounds like you have had some bad experiences in relationships, but that's over now. Come with a positive attitude to Online Dating, and just meet the people. Then when you email them and meet them in person, you can decide if they are real or not.

."I am not interested in guys who are bitter and boring..." Noone is. Use the Ad mostly to tell what you like, not what you don't like. Agreeability is a must have in first introductions.

John has lived In Argentina, Chile, India and USA, and has traveled extensively. He holds a Bachelor's Degree in Metallurgical Engineering from the Indian Institute of Technology and a Master's in Electrical Engineering from N.C. State University. He worked in the High-Tech Industry for 5 years, and has also owned a Vegetarian Restaurant. His interests include Psychology and Financial Markets.

John is 32 years old and growing.

Phone: 1-313-672-6863.

If you want John to Review your Dating Profile for a small fee, visit http://www.dating-profile.com.

©2004 John Gandhi, Founder
http://www.dating-profile.com

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Internet Love Deceptions

Are YOU Being Scammed Right Now?

Can you really trust the person you are dating online? Are YOU Being Deceived By The Person YOU Think YOU Are Dating Online? Are YOU One of the THOUSANDS of PEOPLE who are being deceived and are losing tens of thousands of dollars right now?

If you think this could be a joke, or it couldn't happen to you, then think again!!

About 150 people, who thought they were in love, just like you, reportedly lost a total of over $1,000,000.00 ( yes, that's one million dollars) in just about three months to scammers !!!

And in that same group, about 1,800 other people refused to make any disclosures as to their financial losses, for various reasons .What was clear was the fact that millions of dollars are being lost per month to these scams.

If you are dating online or involved in any relationship online, especially with a person with links to Nigeria, the West African Coast or you know someone who is, then you need to read this urgently now !!!

If the person you are dating or chatting with is claiming to be a US citizen, but is now working abroad, especially in Nigeria, then you must read this too.

Who knows whose life you may be saving next?

Just because people do not tell you about it does not mean it is not happening. The scams are happening to people regardless of age, sex, educational level, status in life, background, marital status, or even race. Single ladies and men, elderly women and men, all types of professionals, and many other people have lost money, and their hearts too. It took them months to recover from the effects on them. And their families never knew until it hit them. In some cases, the men or ladies had gone on to intimate their families that they were bringing a fiancé or fiancée home. Only for them to discover at the last minute that there was no lover, leaving many families disappointed.

And to many people, they had to suffer the pains and the shame too. The embarrassments, the guilt feelings, the suicide battles, the empty, lonely feelings and all that. Not a few felt like ending their lives as a result of what happened to them. Losing a lover in real life is bad enough. But getting to discover that you were being deceived all the time, and seeing that there was no real person makes it much worse. It takes a lot of effort by many to get over such an event.

If it were the problem of just a few people, it could be waved away as being just a small problem. But in just a matter of 5 months in 2005 alone, thousands of people in the USA have owned up to being scammed. And from firsthand experience gathered right at the places where the scams happen, lots of people are still being scammed. Thousands upon thousands of people are being set up for a scam right at this very moment.

By getting the details in this guide, you never know whose life, money and emotions you could be saving.

• It could be that of someone close to you.
• It could be that of someone precious to you.
• It could be that of an acquaintance.
• It could even be yours.

So, why not get this e-book today, and educate yourself on how to stop yourself or anyone else close to you, or indeed anyone else from being scammed? Remember, the key to stopping the scams is not in the FBI or the police or any other agency. They are doing all they can, but it is not stopping the scams from proliferating all over the place. Remember -- The key to stopping the scams is by educating yourself!