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Dr. Dennis W.Neder
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Ask The Coach
by Toni Coleman



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When love vanishes

Dear Dating Coach,

I am a 30 something, professional woman who was in a long distance relationship with a divorced father for over a year. He suddenly ended it, citing long distance dating stress and its impact on him and his kids as the reason.

I believed we were head over heels for one another as we spent every other weekend, vacations and all holidays together. He had always been loving and demonstrative, yet broke up with me via a terse email. Needless to say, I was devastated. I have contacted him a number of times, seeking closure- but he refuses to talk about it. I still love him and believe it is impossible to move on and look for a new relationship when I am carrying a torch for him. What can I do? What should I do?

- Stuck in a dead end love

Dear Stuck-

I'm so sorry. All break-ups are painful and the grief is only compounded when a break comes with no warning, no clear explanation, and no way to process your feelings by asking questions and expressing the hurt- which would both help you finds closure. So you are left to move forward on your own, which you must do. You will need to go through a grief process that will take you through a whole range of feelings, and which should be accompanied by support from family and friends in order to maximize its benefit to you. I have two articles that can detail this for you. These are on:

http://www.consum-mate.com/article.php?id=47&catid=13

Right now you appear to be in the first stage of grief, which is denial. I wouldn't be surprised if you are still trying to rationalize that he will come to his senses and/or realize that he wants to be with you. You can waste a lot of time in denial. Read my articles, get your support systems in place, and come up with some new life goals. It will take time to heal, and you will get through it more easily by redirecting your attention and trying to stay focused on something different and positive. Once you truly KNOW it is over, you will be free to move forward and find a man who is truly right for you.



©2005

is a psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), and People magazines. She has been featured on ABC news, Discovery Health, AOL news, MSN, and Match. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in "The Business And Practice Of Coaching," ( Norton,September 2005); and is the author of the forward for," Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time" (Simon and Schuster, November 2005). From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.


How To Get Your Ex Back!

Getting Him Or Her Back Book Cover

Did your loved one leave you and end your relationship suddenly leaving you filled with questions, anxiety and depression? Or did you and your beloved finally split after a lengthy period of constant arguing and unpleasant disagreements?

Whatever the reason for your separation, you do hold the power to SUCCESSFULLY retrieve your long lost love and even have him or her fight for your relationship like you wished he or she would!

Having a broken heart can be a terrible experience. There are many reasons why your ex may have left you and there things you are probably doing that are making the situation worse. You just do not realize these common mistakes because of the emotional state you are in. Regardless of the way you feel right now, this guide will easily help you to understand the makings of a breakup, it will help you to understand why this is happening to you and it will clearly show you what you may be doing wrong. Next, this guide will take you through the easy steps to turn the tables in your favor and have your ex start chasing you and asking for another chance.

The manual is for you if:

  • You are truly in love with your ex.
  • You want to see your ex happy.
  • You want to make your ex happy for the rest of his or her life.
  • You feel you can never be happy again without this person in your life.
  • You can see marriage and family with this person, or a re-marriage.
  • You want to devote every minute of your life to making this person happy.

If you answered yes to all of these attributes, then I would highly suggest ordering this manual now. Do not wait any longer. The longer you wait, the longer it will take for a successful turn around.

This manual will show you:

  • The steps you MUST take before trying to get him or her back.
  • The mistakes you most likely have made which pushed your ex away.
  • The mistakes you are still making which is only making things worse.
  • What you can do to get his or her attention back.
  • How to successfully reel him or her back into your life.
  • How to keep your new relationship with your ex.

If you want more info on the book please go to

The "How To Get Your Ex Back!" Website


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