Through thick and thin, through sickness and in health- 'till death do us part. The vow of marriage, this is when a couple decided to make a stand to love and cherish each other for the rest of their lives. This is when they can't get enough of each other and can't wait to take each other home and make pleasurable love. This is when they are so romantically hopeful and full of promises, this is when they look at each other adoringly and affectionately as if the world revolves around them and nothing else matters. That was then, but after a few years of being together, something happens.

Just like an alcohol that evaporates into thin air, the romance just disappears. That adoring and affectionate look now turns into regret and remorse. If before you can't get enough of each other, now you can't stand each other. If you are one of those people who understands what I mean then you must really be nauseatingly tired. You still love your spouse but you just feel trapped and exhausted sometimes. You still want to be with your significant other but sometimes you just want to run far, far away and breath. Maybe it's because of saturation or too much familiarity or boredom but you know this cannot go on.

You need to get out of this plateau stage or else you are going die of the monotony. This is when falling in love again should be done. Falling in love again is like going back to the time when your eyes sparkle with just the mere mention of your spouses name and give each other goose bumps. Falling in love again is like going to the time when you made your vows and value each other. In going to the time that you cant help falling in love from each other, you need to make certain compromises. You and your spouse should make conscious effort.

Here are some tips in falling in love again with your spouse. Rake up those negative vibes and magnify the good things about your partner. I know this can be tough especially in a grubby and sully exterior but it's just there. Bring out the grateful side in you, like for example he may get sloppy sometimes but at least he's really good with the kids. Another tip in falling in love again is to spare some time for each other. Watch a movie, one that interests both of you, laugh together and have fun. Do the crazy stuff that you used to do.

To rekindle that moment that you cant help falling in love with your spouse is to get away, just the two of you, better yet go the place where you had your honeymoon and enjoy each other's company. Even for a while, leave all the pressures and stresses that work and family obligation brings. Another way to bring back the love and spark in your marriage is to do something together like enrolling in an art class or a dancing class. Your husband may cringe at the idea but learning something together can make you see your spouse in a different light.

Older couples sign up for a ballroom dancing class and testified that it did wonders to their marriage. Consider marriage as a living thing, you have to nurture it- feed it, pamper it, value it and most importantly take care of it, if you don't, it will disappear or die a silent death.

©2009 Ruth Purple

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