Date Like Donald Trump
Love, Apprentice -style
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There are few people left in America who are not completely, unabashedly addicted to The Apprentice. The backstabbing. The brown-nosing. The hair.
I admit it. I'm one of them.
Of course, one of the things that makes the show and Donald Trump himself so appealing, is that patience isn't really his strong suit and he makes no effort to tiptoe around the facts. You don't pull your weight and you're fired. You use bad manners and you're fired. You do something stupid, and, yes, you're fired.
So, I got to thinking. What if we dated like Donald Trump?
Think about it. You'd assemble your top dating candidates for a little head-to-head competition. Would any of the candidates on The Apprentice show up late or forget to call? I don't think so. Why? Because they know that if they did, they'd be history and a bunch of other wanna-bes would be delighted to see them go. The same would be true for dating.
You could assemble ten fabulously qualified eligibles for a month-long date-off. Every week would involve a different dating task, like playing a 7-hour Yahtzee marathon with your parents and crazy Aunt Leona, mall shopping for a dress to wear to your third cousin Mildred's wedding, negotiating a quiet exit in a nightclub where your ex has made a surprise visit, and the bonus round, providing the correct answer to the question, "Does this outfit make my butt look big?" All the while, candidates would be judged on good manners, restaurant choices and the ability to make your toes curl. And, at the end of each week, you'd call a few of the screw-ups into the boardroom (or maybe the bedroom) and let somebody go.
If you really want to weed out the riffraff, go ahead and enlist your very own George and Carolyn to keep an eye on the candidates, offer opinions and report back on any goof-ups.
Why date like The Donald? First, it's efficient. Why go through one lousy date at a time when you can date in bulk? Second, it's easier to see who the really great candidates are (and who is the best fit for you) when you can compare them side-by-side. With traditional dating, you may not realize that old flame from college really was the perfect match for you (six or seven years too late, after they've already been scooped up by somebody else.) And last, well, it just seems like a heck of a way to spend the summer.
And at the end of it all, you'll not only end up with someone who's perfect for you, but also with someone who clearly wants to be there.
Do it right, and you'll never again have to say, "You're selfish in bed, you're a lousy dresser, and my Aunt Leona isn't too crazy about you. You're fired."
Lisa Daily is the author of 'Stop Getting Dumped!
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Attraction Formula was written by an "underground" but extremely experienced New York player named Paul Janka. His recent appearance on Dr. Phil has a lot of guys curious about his no-frills approach to meeting women.
He's had sex with (at the time of this writing) about 146 women, so he certainly has the credentials to provide some excellent insights into the finer points of advanced game.
The interesting thing about this book is that there is very little focus on "inner game." Janka's writing is zero-fluff and gets right into tactics and getting the job done.
The book is split up into six sections:
I. PREPARATION: Philosophy and Mindset
II. ENGAGEMENT: Bringing Her into Your Reality
III. MIDGAME: Moving Beyond the Digits
IV. SEXUAL LOGISTICS: Making It Happen
V. RELATIONSHIPS: The Final Frontier
VI. LUXURY PROBLEMS: Consequences of the Player Lifestyle
Preparation
Despite the strong focus on advanced game, Janka does cover the foundations of solid beginner game and how to overcome approach anxiety. His talks about how to conquer fear and how to get into the zone (he calls this "mojo").
In addition he talks about where and when to meet women for an effective interaction. What's interesting is that Janka does not go to bars or clubs at night or on the weekend. As a result, much of the material here is on street or "day game."
Engagement
The second section of the book is where Janka's extensive experience becomes apparent. Since he's lived in New York City for several years, he has approached thousands of women. He discusses overcoming objections and how to get phone numbers quickly. His game here is very tight and goal oriented. He doesn't spend a lot of time chatting with women for long periods of time. In fact, he discourages it.
Midgame
Here Janka talks about what to do after you get the phone number. How do you transition from meeting her on the street to having her naked and screaming your name at the end of the night? He also reveals more about his infamous spreadsheet that contains details of all the women that he's been with. He then dives into dates and where to go and what to say during the date. I think he could have expanded this section more, but there are still quite a few gems here to make it a worthwhile read for any serious player.
Sexual Logistics
This is where things get hot and heavy. Janka discusses issues of respect, getting her turned on, and transitioning to sex. His style is fast paced and may be a little too advanced for beginners. He's even said that he doesn't take women on dates anymore. He simply meets them on the street and later invites them back to his apartment. In this part of the book, he also gives out several good tips on how to setup your apartment for sex.
Relationships
Even a seasoned player like Janka occasionally has relationships. He talks about how to make the decision to enter a relationship and how to effectively prevent a relationship from developing, should that be your decision. Topics of note here are how to manage multiple girls and how to manage their expectations.
Luxury Problems
One of the funnier bits I've seen in a long time. For instance, he brings up the interesting challenge of trying to schedule dates with girls based on their menstrual cycles. Dry cleaning bills and soiled linens are also rants that had me falling off my chair.
Janka concludes his hard-hitting guide with several case studies from his personal life. While the book is certainly not for the faint of heart, his advice is solid and is a worth reading several times over. I would strongly recommend it for anyone looking for a book on advanced game.
