1) When you are in a relationship and your boyfriend ignores you in front of his friends, do you:

• A) Yell or argue with him about not being attentive enough.


• B) Ignore your feelings so has not to upset him.


• C) Eat something sweet until your feelings pass.


• D) Tell (not yell) him why you are angry even if he gets upset.

2) When first meet a man and he starts to tease you, but it feels uncomfortable, do you:

• A) Smile and not say anything until he gets the message.


• B) Tease right back to show him you are not a wimp.


• C) Say to him, "Are you upset with me?"


• D) Try to laugh even though you feel put down.

3) After 3 dates, your new boyfriend expects you to sleep with him; you feel hesitancy because you have some concerns about his character because he gets impatient when you express concerns. You don't want to lose him so you decide to:

• A) Sleep with him anyway because after all it has been 3 dates.


• B) Simply say you are tired and hope he gets the message.


• C) Tell him about your concerns and what you need from him.


• D) Yell at him.

4) At a party, several people compliment you on your new outfit. You respond by:

• A) Minimizing their compliments so has not to appear arrogant.


• B) Not saying anything but thinking, "They are just saying that to be nice, they don't really mean it."


• C) Smile and say "Thank You."


• D) Walk away out of embarrassment.

5) When you are upset with someone do you:

• A) Tell your best friend about it until you feel better.


• B) Tell every one who will listen


• C) Talk to the person who upset you to try and resolve it.


• D) Talk to the person who upset you to for the main reason being to get them to apologize.

6) You are in a committed relationship for more than 5 months. You begin to notice that he seems to be less affectionate with you. It isn't that he is ignoring you but perhaps you think he is starting to get bored or take you for granted. You?

• A) Ask him why he isn't romantic anymore.


• B) Emotional withdraw from him to get his attention.


• C) Start flirting with him more.


• D) Break up with him because all men are the same.

7) At a party that you don't know many people, you notice a handsome guy across the room. You decide to?

• A) Look away out of embarrassment.


• B) Go introduce yourself to him.


• C) Look directly at him, and smile for 5 seconds without looking away.


• D) Send him a note that says, "Check here if you like me."

8) After 4 dates you can't tell if your new guy really likes you so you decide to..

• A) Call him up to ask him his intentions, to "just be honest."


• B) Get angry and talk with friends who will justify your feelings that he is clueless.


• C) Obsess over what is wrong with you.


• D) Reflect and realize that perhaps your insecurity may be something other that him making a move on you.