Nearly every woman fears being thought of as Needy. Yet, women often don’t realize how they unconsciously can contribute to this perception.

Many women act independent and strong at the onset of a relationship, wanting to convey confidence and strength to the new man in their life. This behavior causes the man in her life to have an unrealistic view of her. When a woman mistakenly believes that always being positive, upbeat, and never voicing her concerns will cause a man to find her more appealing. This is a misconception. While men do initially find this behavior somewhat appealing, this approach is ultimately doomed for failure.

Over time, this approach causes a man to think that a woman doesn’t have any needs and that nothing bothers them. As such, as the relationship continues to progress, and issues remain ignored and/or unattended to, emotions begin to build up inside of these women.

The emotion could be sadness, agitation, the impulse to know what he’s doing all the time, to talk to him frequently, and so on. The man is not accustomed to seeing this type of behavior and/or these intense feelings from this woman. He often wonders what happened to the laid back easygoing woman he has been with for the past few weeks. Frequently, this chain of events can lead to a break up, and the woman is left to wonder what do guys really think.

Here’s what I tell my clients…

Let the man in your life know when something bothers you before it builds up. If you simply hold it in there will come a day when your emotions will overwhelm you….and him.

 

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