Men and women are as different as night and day. From the earliest schoolyard days, boys and girls tease each other about their differences, chanting that women are from Venus and men are from Mars.

There is a lot of truth in that. Because of these innate differences, women are often confused about what a man really wants in life and in love. Why does he do and think so differently than she does? How are the things he wants and needs different from what she wants and requires out of life? What exactly do men really want?

Above all else he wants to be admired. Men will do almost anything for a woman's admiration. In a world where it’s fashionable for women to come across as businesslike, impassioned, and cold, finding a truly warm and loving woman is a daunting task. You may be the most loving and passionate woman in the world, but if you present the world with your super-model scowl he’ll never know and may be afraid to approach you.

The popular-culture perspective that a woman must be a size zero and six feet tall in order to be attractive is misleading. Men simply want a woman who is attractive… to him. She may be thin, average, or rotund. She may be tall or short. She certainly doesn’t have to look like a model.

A woman who takes a little pride in her appearance and is happy and confident with herself is the most beautiful of all. If she’s kindhearted, trustworthy, faithful, and caring, he’s hit the jackpot. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and “beautiful” varies as much as there are different men in the world. To someone, you are indeed the most beautiful woman in the world and are far more desirable than any supermodel ever could dream of being.

Despite the changes in society, most men still want to make a home and wants a woman who will be willing to share his home life. Men love feminine women. Despite some cultural messages, it’s not attractive to be super masculine or boyish. If she’s very feminine and kind, he may be attracted to her because she’ll make a great mother.

Men do truly look for women who would make a great mother to their future offspring. He doesn’t want to be alone and wants a woman who will commit to him. He wants a long-term partner who he can share life with and be trusting and open with.

Men also want a woman who has a great sense of humor and is supportive of him. She should be fun and sociable and make him comfortable. She shouldn’t be quick to criticize him or try to alter or mould him. He wants her to be on his side and to be his number one supporter.

Communication skills are important and she should be able to discuss things with him without losing her temper and yelling. While your fiery temper and personality may have made you interesting to him in the beginning, it won’t be an attractive trait as time goes on.
Men love a challenging woman who keeps them on their toes, a woman who is a little mysterious and whose interests are multifaceted.

This doesn’t mean she comes and goes at odd hours of the night or secretly works a double shift at the strip club. She has her own interests, hopes, and dreams and wants to share them with him. Her passion for life is intoxicating.

The modern male is a unique being who is caught between traditional longings and modern reality. While his role in society continues to change, some things remain constant. He wants a fun, reliable, sexy single girl with whom he can develop a long-term, meaningful, and trusting relationship. He does eventually want to settle down and have children.

He wants to be loved and respected, even if he’s not the primary breadwinner anymore. In all reality, a man’s deepest desires aren’t too different from those of women. He wants to be respected for who he is and to have a loving, trustworthy, and interesting partner to spend his life with.

©2005 Bob Grant