Asking Her Out - It's All About Timing

Have you ever heard the old saying, “Timing is everything”? The time you invest in a stock may determine whether you make or lose money on your investment. The time you swing a baseball bat may be the difference between a home run and a strike. Likewise, timing is everything when it comes to dating.

Consider ahead of time when would be the best time to ask a girl out, for what evening you want to ask her out and where you want to go, and even what is best for you at this particular time in your life.

Now is not always the best time, no matter how lovely it may feel at that moment. If you meet a great gal who wants to marry you and have your babies when you’re 22 but you’re not financially or emotionally ready for that, it’s the wrong time.

If you meet an interesting woman when you’re on a short trip abroad, it’s not good timing. There’s nothing you can do about this. It’s simply bad timing. We simply have to accept that bad timing happens to all of us and move on.

Other timing issues have less to do with the time of your life than with the timing we do things, like asking a girl out at the wrong moment. Perhaps you are totally into a girl and ask her out, only to discover that she just got into a new relationship a few weeks ago, that she just broke up with her long-term boyfriend and is nowhere near ready for a new relationship, or that she is moving out of town.

Or perhaps you plan a fantastic date, but her relative dies and she’s in no mood for celebrating. There are countless factors and situations where timing may just be plain wrong, and this is no fault of your own. It’s just a fact of life.

Timing won’t always be completely out of your control. When planning a date, you have a certain amount of control. You may plan for a weekend so that work doesn’t get in the way and so there are plenty of social activities to attend. Or you may plan for a weekday when the restaurants aren’t so crowded and so you don’t infringe on her busy weekend plans.

A weeknight date may seem less formal and more relaxed. Whichever you chose depends on you and your date. When you ask her out, offer her a choice of dates and locations and understand and accept when she has other plans. Don’t immediately assume that she doesn’t want to go out with you if she says no.

She probably does really have other plans. Let her know you’re interested and would love to go out sometime soon and you’ve opened a world of possibilities.

That’s not to say that lame excuses don’t exist, because they certainly do. They are meant to warn you off. Persistence doesn’t pay off for you in this case. If a woman makes a series of lame excuses why she can’t go out with you, she’s not interested.

Check your timing and ask her out when you have the best possible chance she’ll say yes. If she says no and means it, respect her for that and move on. Don’t get mad at her.

If you want to approach a woman at a night club, take timing into consideration. Don’t approach her as she meets up with a huge group of friends. Don’t approach her at the last song. Think things through before making your move.

If she is alone or with a small group of friends and there is plenty of time left to enjoy the evening, you have a much better chance of success.
Timing is extremely important in the dating game. Don’t just “wing it” and hope for the best.

Get to know your love interest a bit before you make your move so you know when she’s most likely to be available and where she’d most likely like to go on a date. If your timing is right, you will be a very happy man.

If your timing is off or you don’t pay attention to timing, you won’t get what you want. There are three words you should remember about dating if you want results: timing, timing, timing.

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